How to increase self-esteem and self-love

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO INCREASE SELF-ESTEEM?

There are some habits that you can do to raise your self-esteem. Also, it is never too late to start. If you follow these tips, you will be able to feel much better about yourself:

•   Associate with people who treat you well. Some people can be toxic and make us feel bad, while others can lift your spirits.
•   Connect with your inner voice. If you’re too critical of yourself, stop. You can start by writing things about yourself, as if you were your best friend. Try to be fair and kind. Read the sentences several times and in the end, you will firmly believe in what you have written. After some time, your way of thinking will change.
•   Accept the fact that no one is perfect, and neither are you. We always try to do our best, but if you are too perfectionist with yourself, you can never feel good.
•   Set goals and try to achieve them. Set realistic goals and meet them to feel better. It can be anything that makes you feel good, like eating a healthy diet to feel better, or learning to swim better to get fitter.
•   Focus on the good things in your life. Don’t focus only on problems because in the end you will let yourself be dominated by them. Avoid what makes you feel bad and bet on everything that makes you feel good.
• Help whoever needs it. If you are generous with others, your self-esteem will increase. Being kind costs very little, and others will appreciate you being fair to them

HOW CAN I LEARN TO LOVE MYSELF?

Believe it or not, taking small steps can lead you to great things. Be compassionate and love yourself above all else. If you find it difficult to do so, take note of these steps that will help you improve self-esteem and self-love:

•   Put criticism aside. If you are used to criticizing yourself, you should do everything possible to stop doing it. This change will increase your self-love. If you’ve used criticism against yourself for years, it can be difficult, but everyone can change. Simply choose positive thoughts that value what you do and how you do it.
•   Let go of scary thoughts. Some people get extremely overwhelmed by small situations. The mind can play tricks on us and create hostile scenarios, where there are none. In the following article on the stress hormone, we explain how to reduce anxiety.
•   Be kind and patient with yourself. You are not always going to get things the first time and you must be patient to achieve your goals.
•   Get inspired by the good and positive things in life. If you are too critical of yourself you will end up feeling insecure, jealous, hate, resentment, or envy, you will never be satisfied with what you do and you will be unhappy all your life.
•   Be kind to your mind. When you feed your head with negative thoughts, anger, anxiety, and bitterness can take over inside.
•   Learn to love. Self-love comes not only from the ability to love oneself, but from the love we feel towards nature or towards others.
•   Look for compliments that are right for you. Every time you feel sad or overwhelmed, or feel that someone has criticized you, praise yourself and recognize all the good things you have.
•   Practice meditation. Be aware of your breathing for at least several minutes a day. To make it possible, close your eyes and breathe consciously. Meditation will help you relax your mind and eliminate all the bad things in it.
•   Listen to your intuition. Everyone has a sixth sense that you must learn to listen to be true to yourself.
•   Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you. Keep in mind that you are going to reap what you sow and if you want others to be generous, kind, understanding and loving with you, you will have to do the same with them.
•   Improve eating habits. Bet on a balanced diet and respect mealtimes to improve your thoughts. Forget the mobile, the computer, and all screens. Free your mind for a few minutes and enjoy this moment. Here we explain everything you need to know to start eating healthy.

HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF?

If you can detect all those signs that indicate that you do not love yourself, you can improve your inner dialogue and the relationships you have with others. Identifying these signs will help you find a solution to those low moods that cause sadness and disappointment.

From here we are going to show you some of these signs so that you are prepared and change the things that prevents you from being happy with yourself and with others:

•   You question everything that others do or say. A very common negative thought that is an indicator of low self-esteem is based on questioning the words, attitudes, or feelings that others have towards you. Everyone likes to feel valued, understood and loved. However, people who do not love themselves tend to overestimate what others think, coming to question everything in a systematic way.
•   Always being on the defensive. This is a clear sign of a person who doesn’t love themselves as much as they should. This lack of confidence and insecurity causes the person to be in a constant and unjustified state of alert, which will lead to an increase of stress and be continually on the defensive.
•   Pretending that everything is fine to avoid conflict. Instead of being defensive, some people choose to pretend that everything going on around them is okay in order to avoid conflict. In this case, the person will never defend what interests them or what they believe is fair. The problem is that they will not get what is rightfully theirs and, furthermore, it will cause an internal discomfort that will end in meaningless discussions over some matter that is not important.
•   Compare yourself with others. This is another sign of a person who doesn’t love themselves. Comparing yourself with others makes no sense and people with low self-esteem always come off badly. Comparing yourself with others only serves to further damage our self-esteem and enhance feelings of envy and frustration.
• The achievements obtained have only been the result of good luck. That way of thinking is usually typical of a person without self-esteem. Obtaining good results is not always a matter of luck, but also of having taken advantage of a good opportunity to achieve a specific objective. A person who doesn’t love themselves will never recognize their value, effort, or ability. Moreover, they will consider that others do not value them either and will turn a deaf ear to compliments or praise. If this is your case and you consider that everything good that happens to you is due to luck, this will make you feel incapable and unmotivated when it comes to achieving other goals.

HOW TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-LOVE?

Self-love is very important and must be cultivated. Luckily, there are different ways to make it possible:

•   Learn to forgive yourself. It is about coming to terms with what one has done, said, or thought. It is not necessary to forget or ignore what has happened, but to reject the negative feelings generated.
•   Be aware that not everything can be controlled. There are things and actions that cannot be controlled, something you must learn to avoid sinking and falling into the abyss.
•   Take care of your physical health. Everyone must be accepted as they are, but exercising facilitates the process to release hormones that will help you feel good inside and out. They are the so-called happiness or pleasure hormones, essential to improve your self-esteem.
•   Take care of your mental health. If you take care of your physical health, you should also do the same with your emotional one. There are several ways to do this, such as meditation techniques or sharing your time with family and friends.
•   Choose your most intimate circle very well. Friends, family, or a partner who makes you feel good are very important to increase your self-esteem.
•   Express your emotions without fear. Do not suppress emotions and express how you feel whenever you need it.
•   Be empathetic with yourself. It is as crucial to be empathetic with others as with yourself. In this way, you will develop affection towards your own emotions and feelings.
• Give compliments every day. Paying compliments to small details carried out with the best intention is not something vain and it will make you feel better.